13 Subtle Behaviors That Instantly Kill Your Credibility—Are You Guilty of These Condescending Moves?
10. Telling someone, “Come on, you know better than that”
This sort of “sigh, shame-on-you” comment can be used in all kinds of situations but is almost always seen as a condescending remark. It’s the sort of thing an exasperated parent would say to their child, so when one adult says it to another, they sound like a scold with a condescending attitude. Say you’re having a debate over politics and someone says, “Come on, you know better than that.” You can’t help but feel like they’re belittling your perspective as short-sighted and childish. Even if you’re doing something objectively bad for you-say, smoking a cigarette-when someone says, “Come on, you know better than that,” it’s such a parental rebuke that you’ll probably relapse into adolescent “don’t tell me what to do” mode and smoke more cigarettes to spite them. If you disagree with someone’s opinion, there’s no problem with saying that directly. If you disagree with their lifestyle choices, it’s usually best to mind your own business.
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