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9 Things You Need to Stop Doing to Start Living a Happier and Self-Kinder Life

Happier and Self-Kinder Life

“When one doorway of joy closes, another opens, but often we appear so long at the closed door that we is not insure the one that has been opened for us.”’ Helen Keller

“Happiness is when what you think, “what youre saying”, and what you do are in harmony.” Mahatma Gandhi

Living a life where you’re happier and kinder towards yourself is not only about what you can do.

But too about what you are already doing. And especially those attires that do have a negative and discontented impact on your life.

So this week I’d like to share 9 such habits. And what have helped me a whole lot to do instead.

1. Stop overthinking.

Overthinking can make any issue seem bigger and scarier than it actually is. It can hold you back in life and from taking action.

What to do instead 😛 TAGEND

Set short time-limits for decisions.

For example: For small decisions like if should go and do the laundry, start writing a new article or work out I generally open myself 30 seconds or less to make a decision.

For somewhat larger decisions that would have taken me days or weeks to think through in the past I provide a deadline for 30 hours or at least for the end of the workday.

Keep a simple reminder where you cannot avoid seeing it every day.

A note that said ” Keep things exceedingly simple” on the white-hot committee I ensure many times each day cured me immensely to- over go- downplay my overthinking.

2. Stop swimming in the sea of the most negative voices.

Our happiness is greatly influenced by the people and the other sources around us.

If you swim around in a sea of negative beings and information that drag you down into fear, irritation and feeling powerless then that they are able to limit their own lives.

What to do instead 😛 TAGEND

Figure out what the biggest time-wasters and energy-drains are among all those things that influence you.

What 1-2 beings drag you and your thoughts down the most? What 1-2 other sources like blogs, forums, diaries, magazines, social media paths and TV-shows have the biggest negative impact?

Write those rebuts down. Then “ve been thinking about” what 1-2 parties and 1-2 other sources that lift you up and acquire you feel happier about yourself and life the most.

Make a decision to spend little meter with the 2-4 negative sources and to invest the time you have now loose up with those positive forces you listed.

3. Stop getting stuck in the past or future.

Spending too much time in the past generally leads to going over old mistakes or failures over and over and to wishing you could go back and got something about them.

And spending too much time thinking about the future often should contribute to frets and to building monsters and nightmare scenarios in your mind.

What to do instead 😛 TAGEND

Spend more of your time in the present moment. You’ll feel lighter, things will feel easier and you’ll be more alert to appreciate the small wonders of everyday life.

Reconnect with what’s happening right now by really sitting down and being still. Then either 😛 TAGEND

Just breathe. Spend a couple of minutes on focusing on just your gulps going in and out. Alone focus on what is going on around you right now. Do it with all your senses. Listen, understand, reek and feel what happens in your little part of the world at this moment.

4. Stop setting a too high bar for happiness.

A common mistake I used to form was to set a too high bar for my own happiness.

And so I often exclusively felt joyful when I achieved something big, when I “ve done something” perfectly or when something unexpected and wonderful happened.

You don’t have to wait for those rare moments to feel happy though.

What to do instead 😛 TAGEND

Tell yourself this as you get out of bed in morning 😛 TAGEND

Today I will have a low table for happiness.

To remember to do this, consider writing it down on a memorandum or on your smart telephone so you see it first thing in the morning.

By doing so you’ll take fewer things for granted. Your attention will naturally be more on what is happening in your daily life and you’ll has become still more grateful for the things there.

Like the food, the brave, hanging out with a friend or a domesticated for a while, the small gesticulates of kindness and the small moments that go past so quickly.

This has at least been my experience with this habit. And it can not lessened my drive to achieve things or to get to done.

Instead it has met daily life lighter to live. And the path to what I want to achieve a happier one to walk on.

5. Stop comparing yourself to other people.

Comparing yourself to other people can easily become a pernicious and chilling daily habit.

You compare relationships, cars, occupations, bodies and houses and at the end of the day your self-esteem is low and you feel like a flop with negativity buzzing around in your leader like a crowd of harassing bees.

What to do instead 😛 TAGEND

Compare yourself to yourself. Precisely see 😛 TAGEND

How much you have grown. How far you have come. The progress you have made towards your goals and dreams.

And don’t forget to celebrate the small successes and paces forward too.

This habit will help you to see yourself from a kinder and more helpful perspective where you feel enlivened as you admire the steps you have taken on your journey.

Instead of feeling drained and powerless to keep originating and to keep going for what you want out of life.

6. Stop doing things too fast.

When you go fast pretty much all the time while stepping, talking, driving or wielding then you tend to feel more stressed.

Your focus more readily becomes sown and it becomes harder to think clearly.

What to do instead 😛 TAGEND

Slow down. Walk, talk, move, drive and succeed slower. As you you do that 😛 TAGEND

The stress in your mas and mind will hover apart. You’ll naturally be more in the moment. You’ll experience all the smells, sights, phones and knows of living even more.

7. Stop pushing away how you deep down feel.

It is one thing to focus on what is positive in life.

But it is another thing to try to push away how you deep down feel about something.

And it typically doesn’t lead to happiness even if you try to turn on a smile and thrust the positivity.

What to do instead 😛 TAGEND

Write it or talk it out.

Don’t force the positive deliberation. If you have negative feelings or dreams that pop up again and again then take some time with yourself to think it through.

A pen and paper or a journal on your computer can help you to think more clearly. Or you can talk about it with someone close to you.

Create a small plan.

After you have accepted and handled how you think and feel about this then write down a small plan- perhaps merely a step or got a couple of them- that you can take action on to move yourself out of this situation and into something better.

And after that get going and get the ball rolling by participating in the first small-minded and practical step forward.

8. Stop spending too little energy and courtesy on what indeed matters to you.

It is easy to get lost and misspend too much of your daylight and week.

On things you might just do out of habit or because you feel you should. On busywork or on things that candidly deep down isn’t that important to you.

What to do instead 😛 TAGEND

Get your priorities in check. Focus on what truly matters for YOU.

Ask yourself: what are the top 4 most important things in my life this year?

Maybe it is your family. Or your pastime and going to be a better photographer. Or your state and getting in shape. Or an important project at work or in your own business.

Sit down, actually think about it and shorten what matters to time the essentials.

Then take out a pen and a small piece of paper and write down merely your top 4 priorities for this year.

Put that tone where you cannot avoid seeing it every day. Like in your work space. Or beside your shower mirror or on your fridge.

This will help you to keep your focus on the right track every day.

9. Stop waiting for someone else to induce you happier.

Don’t make the all too common mistake of waiting for someone else to create the week, month and year you wishes to. That usually leads to much waiting and frustrations.

What to do instead 😛 TAGEND

Be proactive. Get the bullet rolling yourself. Taking any decision and make the first big step forward with clearing the changes you want to form to create the life you want to live.

Set up a coffee appointment or an evening at the saloon with those most positive parties in your life. Create the low-spirited saloon for joy as you mount or drag yourself out of bunked in the morning and go slow today. Sit down tonight and write down those four most important things for you this year.

And if it feels difficult and you start to procrastinate then remember that you can always do smaller paces forward.

Do whatever is needed to reduce that mental hurdle and to get yourself to begin or back into taken any steps again.

Read more: positivityblog.com

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Written by WHS

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