” At era, I feel imperfect when I meditate. The meditation hubbub is never easy and effortless and is always linked to my breathing. What should I do ?”
” Meditation is not only easy for me, even though I feel that it should be. It is difficult to repeat the resonate the mode it is supposed to be. Some say that they can find comfort in duplicate the meditation clang when something is difficult and that it is easy to repeat. For me, it’s not like that. In guidance, I am reassured and am told that everything is all right. But it’s not. So sometimes I wants to know why I keep on studying. But I’m fairly stubborn and tend to want to face challenges, rather than give up .”
Feelings of shortage are difficult to deal with in all aspects of life that are important. Some of us tend to give up when feelings of shortage overwhelm us. Others go into fight mode. Others again become strange about what the feeling implies. We pursue every single thread. Other terms that suggest the feeling of being inadequate may be: Second-rate, powerless, inadequate, dismal, wretched, worthless, sorry. These are statements that describe something that is far from what we want to be. In meditation, we perform our own judgments of our musing accomplishment. Still, we feel that others would oblige the same judgment if they could only encounter for themselves how distressing our carry-on is.
Our assessments are made in relation to a standard, which is defined by our expectancies. Someone who runs the 100 -meters in 20 seconds may consider this to be a good time if he does not expect anything better. But someone who runs the 100 -meters in events would despair over such a bad day. Or you may think that you should be better than you are. You should expect more from yourself. One is still on the low-pitched calls of the ladder of achievement.
But striving to achieve does not belong in meditation. You are always in the best place in your meditation, you may have heard. So why can’t the musing din be allowed to go along with your breathing, without triggering the feeling of inadequacy? Or further, and perhaps even more fundamentally: Why are you able not feel inadequate and accept that this is the way it is? It is the feeling that happens to be there, and it must be allowed to be present. The basic principle is that you should repeat the clang as easily and effortlessly as you are eligible to, and leave the rest to be as it is. Processing takes neighbourhood when what comes in meditation is allowed to play itself out, and sensations are given the space to be there without being driven away.
“OK”, you may say, “I accept that. But the music is not light and effortless.” No, if you act on your feeling of scarcity and perpetually try to adjust and correct the road you reflect, everything becomes an effort. If, on the other hand, you give the repetition of the hubbub to be as it is, despite your negative appraisal, you compute some free mental attitude to the meditation. In non-directive meditation such as Acem Meditation, there are no objective governs that require a specific degree of purity in the meditation tone, that it must be properly rhythmic, or independent from your breathing. All these parameters will vary depending on where you are in your meditation and to what extent you are under the influence of meta-thoughts that tell you that you are not meditating the right way. If you unwind your requirements for your meditation recital, things can become messy and equivocal. Great! You will then integrated into a subject that is unknown and where you can practice not allowing the meta-thoughts to be in control of what you are doing. To become familiar with what is there, you must sometimes let the meditation hubbub to take a form that does not quench whatever it is you requirement of it in accordance with the rules of clarity or completeness.
This does not mean that you should not adjust your action. However, such adjustments we manufacture should ever go in the direction of a greater free mental attitude and less effort. If there is an opening for this, you can try it out. If it becomes a struggle, you make it be. This is not giving up. It is to meditate based on the principle of the free mental attitude.
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By Maria S. Gjems-Onstad and Dag Spilde
Translated by Eirik Jensen
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