Childhood Emotional Neglect( CEN) impacts individuals in a wide variety of ways. But in this unprecedented time of social distancing, wreaking remotely, and even quarantine, CEN can irritate the responses that so many of us once knowledge in “normal” times.
It’s important for those of us who are having feelings that are more deepened than usual, or which seem disproportionate to the situation, to know that we are not alone. Our actions, however extreme or perplexing, are a natural response to childhood occurrences over which we had little or no control
There are a myriad of effects of growing up with CEN. Some of them can be especially noticeable as we navigate through this coronavirus outbreak 😛 TAGEND Harrowing Stress Disorder( PTSD)
Simple, everyday happenings were generally readily be prompts when suffering from PTSD. During the coronavirus outbreak, there are countless initiations every day, such as scarcity of inevitabilities and absence of limitation. Breathing, musing, checking in with ourselves, and trying professional aid can mitigate the fight or flight responses.
When we have knowledge disrespect by caregivers — the people we should have been able to trust to take care of us and meet our needs when we could not do so as children — we often lose the ability to trust others when we become adults, even those people who have proven to be trustworthy.
As we steer through unfamiliar territory, it can be difficult to trust that our community, friends, and family will be there for us when we need them. We might feel this way even when they have told us and/ or shown us that they can be counted on. It can also be difficult to trust ourselves to be strong enough to handle this situation and perhaps even come out more empowered on the other side.
Difficulty Relying on Others
For those of us who grew up emotionally forgot, “weve learned” the message that we cannot depend on others to meet our needs, and we might try urgently throughout our lives to get other people to meet those needs. We learned that we need to be emotionally independent, even though we might feel emotionally dependent on others in a codependent road.
We are presently in a situation where countless are losing their jobs or receiving a smaller paycheck, or unable to obtain food and other inevitabilities because they cannot get to a supermarket or the accumulate is not stocked, or isolated as a result of operating remotely, self quarantine, or awning in place line-ups. Consequently, we might have to rely on others for physical and feeling needs. For people with CEN, this can feel like a frightening loss of control and can prompt feelings of powerlessnes and fear.
Believing that Our Feelings Are Not Important
One of the devastating consequences of CEN is the message that our feelings are not important. This learned and restriction mind can attest itself in many ways, such as not carrying our needs in relationships. During this coronavirus crisis, we are bound to have numerous intense feelings, including fear, anxiety, and loneliness. If we continue to believe that our feelings are not justified or do not matter, we might suppress them and ultimately feel them even more intensely. We might not get our needs converge, or we may feel shame over having these needs at all. This crisis can help us learn to turn this limiting belief around and begin to get more pleasant in re-connecting with our feelings and conveying them.
We are living in a historic time with daily misgiving and uncharteds. But this crisis can also provide us with an opportunity to gain personal insights, to begin healing from Childhood Emotional Neglect, and to improve our quality of life.
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