Empowering Youth to Protect Themselves from Dating Abuse 

I was in college the first time I retain anyone mentioning blueprints of domestic violent behavior to me. We had a guest loudspeaker dedicate a give about her personal experience of be participating in an abusive relationship where sovereignty dynamics were the center actor. She was reflected in retrospective thinking the early days of her relation. She mentioned her partner for her at a diner.

“That’s sweet.” I reckoned. I is not recognize the early clues of ensure she was foreshadowing.

Later in a Health and Wellness class, I learned about the warning signs of an abusive liaison 😛 TAGEND

Extreme jealousy and distrust

Constant belittling and putdowns

Explosive feeling

Isolation from friends and family



Emotional manipulation

In bewilderment, I realized my boyfriend at the time checked every component on the register. But I continued to deny the damage in his actions, showing them apart and reframing them with defences. I was not able to acknowledge our harmful affair until surroundings became serious enough that I was forced to.

It is important to note that these warning signal alone do not predict an abusive affinity. We all, at one time or another, may be guilty of being unscrupulous, self-serving, or any other less than self-righteous caliber. Likewise, just because you require for your spouse at a eatery does not indicate you are an abuser. The importance lies in the harm that is incurred, the reply given when that behavior is challenged, and the repetitive structure of behavior that heightens over time.

The reasons mortals engage in domestic violence behavior are many and complex. Abuse, of any kind, is known for its cyclical mood, often foisting its pain on generation after contemporary until someone turns on the daylight of awareness to their patterns of behavior and bursts the repetition.

While I would not say it was my fault that I eventually noticed myself in an abusive relationship, there were certain aspects of my personality at the time that manufactured me suggestible to this type of abuse. These are common traits that emotional manipulators will prey on 😛 TAGEND

Low self-esteem or unclear appreciation of name

People pleasing behavior

Non-confrontational, uneasines with conflict, shortage of assertiveness

Immaturity or naivety

Lack of independence, low-grade self-reliance or resiliency

It is not a co-occurrence that adolescents are at significant risk of abuse from a partner, because it is during this phase of development that notions like self-esteem, name, confidence, maturity, and assertiveness are being challenged and used to work. Harmonizing to, one in three boys will knowledge some type of abuse from a romantic collaborator. Because abuse has a tendency to escalate, if they have knowledge one type of abuse, “well likely they will encounter other types, with more severity, in the future.

How do we not see this coming? Why is our awareness so low-pitched? One ground is because abuse does not begin outright in extreme lanes. Abusers understand that they must first gain trust and emotional influence to avoid detection. In the beginning of the relationship, an abuser is on his or her best behavior.

Over time, an imbalance of power is created by the abuser commonly in three phases 😛 TAGEND

Gaining trust and understanding the fatigues of the victim

Using those deficiencies to gain strength and oversight matters

Reassuring the victim of trustworthiness and recurring the round

Gaslighting is a common strategy used by abusers to confuse their victim and revoke their pretensions. If a victim begins to suspect harm in his or her partner’s wars and tackles their partner about it, an abuser will go to great lengths to dissuade the victim. For casualties without a strong sense of name, self-esteem, or other expressions of support like friends and family, they are more likely to be talked out of their own perception.

Empowering our teenages to avoid abusive dynamics is two-fold: Early education on the warning signs and common rationales of ill-treatment AND strengthening the resources and support for our teenagers to develop a strong sense of self-esteem, name, and positive assertiveness, reducing their susceptibility to abusive dynamics.

Equipping our youth with tools for protecting themselves from abuse is more important now than ever, as social media continues to grow in relevant to our society, further display our teens to a variety of threats that go beyond their own peers and classrooms.

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Written by WHS

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