By Carl Henrik Grondahl
Not a feeling
The free mental attitude is associated with action, with the action we do something, feel, speculate, speak, ordinance. When we penetrate the driver’s seat of a gondola for the first time, we aren’t able to drive effortlessly while simultaneously have been involved in a joyful or interesting discourse. The mental abilities required to do so are not yet available to us. The challenge appears too complex and dangerous, and the fact that we may not be able to cope with the situation situates us on our patrol and moves us close our heads. In seek to be alert and present in traffic in an effortless way, and to have sufficient control of the technical particular aspects of driving, we need practice. Only then can we drive with a free mental attitude. Even so, brand-new traffic situations beyond our insure can pop up, and then we again find ourselves outside the mental zone where we have a free mental attitude. We become senseless and it’s easy to do stupid things.
Most of us try our best to live within the area of our free mental area, where we can act without conflict and struggle, and without straining our self-image. There we behave in constructive ways and interact creatively. A soccer tutor has appointed this the zone of flood. When nonetheless we find ourselves in situations that leave us with bad feelings, we are outside our free mental zone: “Those stupid things I did! I shouldn’t have said that! Why wasn’t I able to stand up for myself? ” In such status, we don’t have access to the free mental attitude in our thoughts, our pronunciation, or our wars. We return to the free mental attitude simply after we have left the situation.
Stress decreases the free mental zone
When we are tired or stressed, things we commonly do in an effortless way can become difficult and tense. Daily meditation is a superb tool to vacuum-clean the free mental zone of dust and get rid of debris that can blur our thoughts.
The fear of losing a free mental attitude can limit our self-expression. We can escape situations where we feel we don’t perform well enough. Stay at home, and prevent away from things that challenge us. Maybe our zone of opennes will gradually reduce, and our tightened coping will be reduced. Maybe there is a reason so many actors remain vital at an advanced age. They have lived at the edge of their free mental attitude- both by routinely having had to memorize large amounts of text and by having cramps and anxiety about going on place every evening.
A life governed by the fear of being outside the solace zone can become a routine; evacuate, perhaps a life unlived. Most long-lasting and intimate social relationships offer ample opportunities to experience things that are difficult to cope with. Life often presents us with actualizations, which involve situations where we are under the influence of unthinking sediment left behind by previous the reports and interactions. We lose the capacity to act freely. And we feel bad afterward.
Toward the leading edge
Nobody likes to live like this, but in order to expand the area of our free mental attitude, we must at times go to the edge to expand our restraints. This is where Acem Meditation produces us- peculiarly long reflections. In meditation, we actively explore what life brings us, in the freedom of our mental attitude, in accordance with procedures we practise Acem Meditation.
The repetition of the meditation chime helps us to move towards the edge of our area of naturalnes. When we arrive at the edge, it is because we are under the influence of actualization- the gradual rise of instinctive resist to change. In meditation, this can have various patterns and formulations. It might feel like something is glued to the sound and movements hurt. It might feel like a squabble about the redundancy, or meta reckons- like a hammer- about how ridiculous and inadequate we are. It might be a silent resistance that procreates us irregular in our reflection attires or stirs us want to skip meditation altogether. Being at the edge is not comfortable. There are a lot reasons to avoid it. Life at the edge cracks with our customary know-how of good reflection and the good life. “It wasn’t as good as I supposed, ” one participant claimed at a weeklong retreat.
But if we want to reach beyond our restraints, we sometimes need to approach the edge. “It was better afterward than I had expected.” And in long musings, reaching beyond our restraints is be done in order to a methodical space, which utters true-blue change more available than in our blurred everyday lives, where others push and pull us in different directions and have their own shares in our self-image. When we arrive at the edge with the repetition of the announce, this initially triggers our established programme of horrifies and reactions, and we respond automatically, without the free mental attitude. We fight, concern, feel disbanded, allege ourselves and those around us, get angry, feel imperfect, as if we smells. Traffic is so intense and dangerously obscure that every attempt to drive with a free mental attitude seems impossible.
Moment of change
This is the moment! This is when we have the option to make a change. Instead of hit hard and pushed around by all our internal conflicts, we try to be there with a free mental attitude. Find back to the effortless repetition of the resound, even when our insides are snotty and unclean. It isn’t easy, life isn’t like that. We it is necessary become difficult choices, with our own will. But it is doable. Again and again. It is about finding our own resources. We make them rise and liberate them into new areas of our internal wilderness.
This means that we must also finetune our understanding of what a free mental attitude involves. Exclusively a cool, easy-going phenomenon in delightful condition and tailwind? With no hard feelings or higher temperatures? Hardly. We may just as well be mentally free when we are angry. There is a huge difference between someone who acts with a free mental attitude when incensed and someone who doesn’t. The one who acts freely has linked with the fury and is at the same time able to take in the responses this anger conjures in others. His or her feeling doesn’t trigger the undercurrents of madnes with parentages in earlier relationships and situations. We are all acquainted with the person who doesn’t have a free mental attitude when angry.
It is this mature, charitable person inside us who we seek when we sit there in the actualizations at the edge of our free zone. This enables us to navigate with the continuous part of us amidst all the mental bias that are thrown at us. In our free mental region, we make use of our maturity, generosity, carefulness, and steadiness- and , not least, we accept our own imperfections.
Something in us wants to chase away what is knew as a disorder to our reflection pattern- strangle it and get rid of it. When we reproduce the reflection phone with such a mental attitude, it isn’t effortless, it’s a fight. A defend that we have knew many times before. It doesn’t change a bit. On the contrary, it abbreviates the field of our free mental zone, narrowing its borders.
The free mental attitude reforms something because it is of the view that even the unpalatable, dire, and unwanted are part of us.
Translated by Anne Grete Hersoug Language journalist: Ann Kunish
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