How to decide: Things to consider before having a baby
Take the time to pull together everything you know about your current circumstances and what you’ll need to be a parent. A good way to do this is to focus on three key areas: your emotional readiness, your financial readiness and your resource readiness.
Bringing a baby into the world takes a big emotional, mental and spiritual investment. To get a good idea of where you’re at right now, consider these questions:
- Why do you want to be a mom or dad? Is having a baby something that you feel you have to do, or is it something you want to do? Do you feel pressured to have one?
- If you’re in a relationship, how do you think having a child will affect the lives of both you and your partner? How much have you talked with each other about starting a family and how both of you feel?
- If you’re not in a relationship, how do you feel about raising a child on your own or with the help of your friends or family? Do you feel confident you can give the time and support your child will need, now and in the future?
- Do you enjoy spending time with children of different ages? How do you see yourself being their parent, through good times and tough times? Which of your childhood experiences would you also want your child to experience?
- What parts of your life will need adjusting? For example, what might need to change about your education, career or personal plans? Are you okay with staying home more and sharing your schedule with your child and their needs?
- How would you feel if your child is sick or has special needs? Would you be prepared for the additional effort and resources needed to raise them?
By being open and honest with your answers, you can give yourself a good idea of where you are emotionally and how ready you feel to be a parent.
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