How Strength Training and CrossFit Transformed My Perimenopause Battle After 45—The Surprising Results You Need to Know

Ever wonder what it’s like to pick up strength training smack in the middle of your forties, especially when you’ve spent years sidestepping gyms, convinced that lifting weights would turn you into some hulking figure overnight? Well, buckle up, because this isn’t your typical fitness tale. Starting as a sporty kid following her dad’s squash footsteps, then juggling a demanding career in the police force, and motherhood thrown into the mix, she thought gyms were a no-go zone. The real game-changer arrived with the onset of perimenopause at 45—hot flashes, that stubborn weight gain, and the nagging desire to reclaim control over her body. The internet pointed to resistance training, and a 12-week online HIIT program with Joe Wicks became her launchpad into a world of dumbbells, barbells, and eventually, powerlifting competitions. It’s a story about smashing myths, overcoming fear, and transforming not just muscles but mindset, proving it’s never too late to start and thrive. Ready to dive deeper into this inspiring journey? LEARN MORE

I started playing sports around 10 years old. My dad was a squash player, and he often brought me along to the club where he played. I fell in love with the sport and I started playing, and I competed until I was in my early 20s. As a young adult, I also used to go to a local sports center where I took step and other aerobics classes for several years.

At 23, I joined the police force, though I continued playing squash and doing aerobic sports during my early years of training. Time passed, I had three children, and I still did sports and aerobic activities sporadically. But to be quite honest, spending more time in gyms was never really on my radar. They frightened me, and I believed the myth that I’d get “bulky” if I turned to weights in the gym.

I eventually started training in a consistent way at age 45 through a 12-week online program.

When I turned 45, I started experiencing perimenopausal symptoms such as hot flashes and stubborn weight gain that left me unhappy with how I looked and felt. I wanted to develop more muscle tone, but I didn’t know how. I started researching on the internet about what middle-aged women can do to achieve this look, and everything pointed to resistance training, so I decided to give it a go.

I didn’t know where to start, so I downloaded a 12-week program from a trainer named Joe Wicks (known as the Body Coach), who is a British fitness instructor and author whose method focuses on high-intensity interval training (HIIT).

The first four weeks of the program were all HIIT sessions that incorporated movements like press ups, burpees, air squats, and lunges. Then, it moved on to resistance training with dumbbells. The final four weeks consisted of barbell work and more weightlifting, so I took the plunge and I went alone to a local gym. It turned out, I loved it. I got a real buzz out of lifting weights and being able to see what my body could do. And a bonus: I was actually really good at it.

After a while, I started advancing my strength skills and competing in powerlifting competitions.

At the gym, I was fascinated watching one woman doing deadlifts and squats. I started a conversation with her one day and said, “What are you doing? And how do you do it?” She showed me the ropes. I started training with her and I did a lot of my own research, looking at YouTube videos all the time to practice the right technique. I’d watch the videos at the gym and I’d practice and practice.

Then, my friend mentioned she was going to do a powerlifting competition. I thought, “I’m never going to be good enough to do that.” But I just kept training and got myself a personal trainer who put me on a good program that helped me work toward competing. The trainer had me doing a lot of barbell work, like back and front squats, Romanian deadlifts, bench presses, lunges, Bulgarian split squats, side lunges, lat pull-downs, biceps curls, and more, working all the parts of the body.

When I went to my first competition, it was absolutely terrifying. There was a lot of adrenaline. I thought, “What on earth have I signed up for?” I had a lot of nagging and doubts in my head and I was scared.

Thankfully, I was with my friend and my coach, who reminded me to be positive and to go out there and focus. Once I warmed up, I felt more confident. All I could hear was the support of the screaming crowd, and that really helped me. By the end of it, I was so proud of myself for the achievement.

My proudest strength achievement was being able to go for a fourth lift of 287 pounds during a deadlift competition.

My favorite memory from my powerlifting competitions is when I got to try for a fourth deadlift after hitting my personal best of 275 pounds. Because of this, the judges let me come back and do a fourth attempt at 287 pounds, which was just massive for me. I felt euphoric, and people who were there with me were jumping all about. It was such a lovely moment of excitement because it was such a heavy lift.

As time passed, I started diversifying my interests and experimenting with CrossFit movements.

During the pandemic, I began exercising from home and experimenting with more functional fitness, like CrossFit. Once lockdowns lifted, I started at a new gym to continue my functional training, and I absolutely loved the different challenges.

For CrossFit, I was learning more about Olympic lifts like the snatch, the clean and jerk, swings, bar muscle-ups, and handstands, which I hadn’t done since I was probably 10 years old. There were so many new exercises, and a lot of the people that I was learning alongside were all so much younger than me—probably around half my age. But it was a lovely atmosphere, and I really enjoyed the new gym, which felt like a family.

These three factors were key to my strength transformation:

1. I stopped trying to go after my goals alone.

I’m a firm believer in having a good coach that can teach you how to lift weights properly, safely, progressively for your body. In addition to this, gather as much knowledge and information as you can on strength training through videos and tutorials so that you can perfect each exercise and minimize injury.

2. I always have a program to work off of.

Never just walk in the gym and not have a program, because you’ll never make progress. You’ll just go from machine to machine, doing random things, and you’ll not make the progressions that you want to make. (Which is another great reason to have a coach!)

3. I stay mindful about nutrition, but not obsessive.

I go by the 80-20 rule. Around 80 percent of the time I eat wholesome, homemade foods, and another 20 percent of whatever I fancy. In that 80 percent, a priority for me is getting enough protein and fiber to avoid an osteoporotic break, which can be common for ladies over 60.

Ladies my age can feel like strength training isn’t accessible, but I want to show them it’s possible no matter where they’re at.

A lot of people can be quite intimidated by what I do, especially ladies my age, in their 50s. Many of them put up a big barrier and say, “I can’t do that” because they’re scared, and they don’t know where to start, since it feels like there’s not many people our age doing this type of sport. But I like to remind people that I didn’t start lifting until I was 45. You can start at any age. There should never be a barrier, and there’s always a different way of doing any of the exercises in an easier way to help you start.

Since leaving the police, I currently do personal training for women within a local gym. I teach them exercise and nutrition, a positive mindset, mindfulness, and menopause management. For menopausal ladies, I want to help get them back into movement and eat nutritious foods that will help them improve their bone health and muscles.

Menopause isn’t something that’s spoken about in the mainstream, and I want to teach other women that what they’re going through is normal. They don’t have to suffer in silence. I want to help them understand that proper sleep, exercise, and nutrition can help you manage their menopause symptoms holistically, in conjunction with a medical practitioner’s guidance.

Now I’m 54 and I prioritize longevity over any other fitness goal.

At 54, I still workout around four times a week, and when I do, I ask myself this: What can I do to live my longest, most independent life? For example, when coaching, I give athletes reasons why we’re doing different exercises.

If we’re squatting, I tell them to think of it like they’re getting up and down off the toilet, or out of the bath. When we’re doing above the head movements, I tell them to think about putting stuff in the cupboard. It’s all about transferring the movements to everyday life.