Unlock Passion Like Never Before: 9 Unexpected Spots That Will Ignite Your Love Life and Boost Your Connection Instantly
Have you and your partner ever fantasized about taking things out of the bedroom? Whether you’re craving something spontaneous, playful, or just a little less predictable, changing up your setting can make your sex life a bit more exciting.
Plus, if you’re in a long-term relationship, going at it in a new place can spice things up, especially if you feel your sex life has plateaued lately, says Gigi Engle, certified sex coach, sexologist, and author of All The F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love and Life.
“It also requires a level of trust that you’re in it together,” says Amy Levine, sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure. “It gives you the opportunity to explore something that can take you to a new erotic edge.”
Just note that if you plan to have sex anywhere public-adjacent, it’s important to consider consent, Engle notes. Of course, that includes you and your partner, but also those who might be around—obviously, strangers haven’t signed up to watch you bone. Being sexually open and adventurous is awesome, but you also need to be a decent and respectful person.
Need some inspo? Here are some of the best and most creative places to have sex.
1. Your backyard or balcony.
Taking things to the backyard can emulate the excitement of outdoor sex…but with a nice level of privacy. “The backyard of your home has the comfort to keep the sex at ease,” Levine says. “Wondering if the neighbors will see ups the mystery and your arousal.”
It’s thrilling to know someone could spot you, and you’re outside but in a clean, private space. And since it’s your property, no worries about breaking the law.
Make it hotter: Put your patio furniture to good use (beyond the occasional backyard BBQ). “If you have a lounger, this can be a good opportunity for you to lie back and enjoy some relaxed oral sex out in the sunshine,” Engle says. Before you head out, don’t forget to grab some water-based lube and a favorite toy.
2. Your car.
If the movie Titanic and high school gossip has taught me anything, it’s that the car is a prime spot to get hot and steamy. It’s a private-but-public space that you have more control over.
Make it hotter: During sunset or under the cover of nightfall, turn off onto a quiet road or find an empty parking lot to discreetly park. Skip the front seat (the horn could blow your cover when you want to blow other things), and opt for the backseat instead. It’ll help keep you hidden, and there’s more room to play around with positions.
3. A hotel room.
Check in for a good time. Whether you’re traveling with your significant other or just got a hotel room for a sexy staycation, make it your playground. There’s just something about having sex while on vacay that always feels extra hot.
Make it hotter: Open the curtains (all of them, all the way) and have sex against the window. It doesn’t matter if your view overlooks a parking lot or another building—you’ll still get a rush knowing people can (and likely will) see.
4. A park or wooded area.
Who doesn’t love getting down with nature? Find a spot to settle down for your romp in an empty, low-traffic park or lightly wooded area. “You want enough camouflage to be shielded,” Engle says.
She also warns against going too deep into a wooded area—getting ravaged by bugs and ticks (or poison ivy) isn’t hot. If you’d rather be on the ground, bring a blanket to avoid mud and grass stains. “This will give you a makeshift sex area and something to use for quick coverups,” Engle says. You know, just in case.
Make it hotter: Put some thought into what you’re wearing, as you both want to don something with easy access. Think long dresses or stretchy shorts that you can quickly pull down or up in case of emergency (read: passerbys). Knowing you’re equipped for a quickie (or multiple ones) is a turn-on in and of itself.
5. A rooftop.
This is more practical for city folk with access to a flat roof, so take proper precautions. But an open rooftop is like your balcony, only more risqué, because anyone (and everyone) can see.
Engle has one important reminder: If you’re in the great outdoors and going to up there for quite some time, don’t forget to put on some sunscreen. (Seriously…that’s not the kind of red hot you want.)
Make it hotter: Bring a cushion, a thick yoga mat or towel, or something soft to add comfort (rooftops are…hard). You can also snuggle it under your hips to create a bit of leverage for deeper penetration. (Or shop one of these made-for-it sex pillows.)
6. A sex party.
While it might be lightyears out of your comfort zone, a sex party has a serious benefit: You can avoid the distracting thought of getting caught so you can focus on performance.
At an event like this, you don’t have to worry who might be watching, since everyone is there for the same reason—so you can let your exhibitionist flag fly high.
Make it hotter: Remember, consent is sexy! Talking about what you both want out of your experience before you arrive will ensure you have a great time. After all, you won’t know what’s on the table until you have a mutual convo about it.
7. An outdoor shower.
Thanks to the electric mix of streaming water, the fresh air, and the chance of a viewer or two, “it’s sexy, especially on a hot summer night,” says Levine. Plenty of fancy hotels and Airbnb’s have them, so include that in your filter search (wink).
Make it hotter: Your best method of action is to face a wall and bend over, and find something you can prop a foot on for a deeper sensation. Try these steamy tips and positions just for shower sex, too.
8. The beach.
Another young fantasy come to life, but with a few caveats: Visit a quiet part of the beach at night to respectfully avoid people, and stay on land to keep the saltwater from drying you up down there.
Lay blankets down carefully so you don’t come away with sand and nasties in every crevice of your body. And try positions where you can avoid a lot of sand tossing around, like riding your partner on a beach chair or spooning each other on the blanket.
Make it hotter: Bring a bottle of wine and a pillow to stargaze afterward. Now you just went from hot-beach-sex to romance-novel-intimate. Swoon!
9. In a tent.
Ah, the sounds of nature: crickets chirping, the crackle of a bonfire, and stifled moans.
Set up a tent in a secluded area of the campsite (or your backyard), and clear out branches or rocks that can cramp the moment. You’ll have the cover of a tent, but the image of your shadows projecting through could provide a bit of extra thrill.
Make it hotter: Remember to stash lube in your knapsack (wetter is better), and unzip part of the tent slightly for more air flow. And don’t forget to pack a mattress pad (or even an air mattress) so you don’t have to do it in your sleeping bag (those can get pretty sweaty).
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